orderly behavior
domestic update…
amazingly helpful friend lucy mentioned a book she’s reading called something like
why first born children rule the world and second borns want to change it.
apparently sebastian displays all the typical first born traits.
but, i am not so sure about the wee three. can the four minutes that determine their birth order direct their personalities, or does it come down to how magnificent charles and i treat them??
we do treat carys (who was born respectively three minutes and one minute after jasper and sela) as the baby. probably because she was so fragile for so long. and, after all, she is three pounds lighter than her next sibling, and five pounds lighter than jasper.
carys’ cries are softer, but gaining strength. very hoarse, like demi moore almost. (and since carys is bald, think demi moore during her GI jane phase and you have a very good visual.)
i’m sorry to bother you, but i can’t stop crying until you help me!
yet jasper (the bruiser) acts like the baby. he cries the most, and is the neediest. sela and carys have assumed some alarmingly grown up traits, while jasper is guilelss and sweet, rolling over on to his tummy and then crying when he gets there because he has forgotten how to roll over again. he isn’t as determined as the others, as long as his tummy is full he really isn’t going to make and effort. if sebastian takes away a toy, jasper doesn’t care.
i am so scared, really. i am frightened and bewildered….
sela, is demanding. but the middle child is meant to be creative and self planning! but this is a girl that begins flailing her limbs about when her siblings are getting all the attention. her cry is not a sign of distress, it is an indication of her anger. sela is either sweet or sour. while the universe revolves around her and her long lashed lids, life is good. but when the planets jasper and carys get attention, look out.
you brought me to this and to show my displeasure, all i can do is SCREAM!
i will read this child’s birth order book, but at this stage in my life, having survived one child being two, i think a better book for me would be a book on orderly children.
