remember the list? friends, ross and rachel, the list…isabella rossellini? of course you do. for ages afterwards, every couple laughingly made the list.
and now, even i, have made the list.
except mine is the SIMO (single income many offspring) version.
instead of listing five attractive celebrities i would like to get involved with, i have created the much more pragmatic version: a list of women magnificent charles should/can marry if i die.
hear me out.
if charles knew he had my approval to marry any of these women, then he would be spared the angst many widowed men face when they are considering remarriage. the women i have so thoughtfully screened have my seal of approval if you will. not only do i think they would make good wives, but they also would make great mothers. even of four children.
and, they would be able to tell my kids stories about me. and would not be entirely uncomfortable when magnificent charles did so, so that my children would not entirely forget me.
while i agree it would be crass for there to be a wedding picture of magnificent and me on display, none of the potentials would be uncomfortable with the pictures being stored. and i think they are all secure enough to not mind there being a small picture of me placed in a not prominent but not in the pantry either area of the home.
depending on his mood, magnificent either gets annoyed or intrigued when i bring out the list.
i cannot believe that you don’t think i wouldn’t be driven crazy by her 25 birds. i hate birds.
…or….
really? her? why do you think we would be a good match?
he isn’t called magnificent for nothing. never once has he been overly enthusiastic about a choice, saying, "i think so too" or anything incredibly stupid like that.
is this controlling? slightly to medium, oh yes. but it is also my way of telling magchar that i would want him to hustle on with his life. i would want him to be happy, and knowing him, these are the women i think would make him happy. not replacement tess’ (these women actually are all very different than me), but good fits for chuck.
i think it would also be helping him out. remember tom hanks in sleepless in seattle? he only had one young child and didn’t have a clue on how to re-enter the dating world. with four kids it gets a leetle more challenging i suspect, and dates might be at romantic events like elementary school fund raisers and rugby tournaments, but with the help of the list, charles would have names of people to call.
controlling and thoughtful. a nice combination.
i am trying not to dwell on the passion part of the relationship, i am more comfortable thinking mary poppins and chaste cheek kisses, but i do know that they would do it. that just upsets me to think about it, so i am not.
do you have a list? have you handpicked your husband’s next wife? what qualities does she have? is she much different to you?
tell me more.
