one good discussion came from our persuasion book club meeting the other night: are today’s women taking advantage of our "evolved society" to persue men?
a few of the women said yes. of course! look at them dressing the way they do, internet dating! speed dating! they are ditching and dating just like men are. especially as they are now equals in the business world.
others said that women still wait to be asked out. yes they meet at bars, but the girl, after giving her number, still waits in agony to see if he calls. there are more unhappy women in marriages than men, they felt.
i maintain that women have always had some power. women do manipulate situations. whether it be a timely "sprained ancle" that keeps a man bound by the chivalric code of the day bound to your side when he would rather be elsewhere, a dropped hankie…women did have some control. but not a great deal.
among the other things we talked about is that you needed self confidence to ask a fellow out. girls lacking in self confidence just won’t be able to.
we decided that if women take advantage of our "evolved society", they do need to have rid themselves of their views of traditional romance. they woman is going to call, make the moves, pay for the dinner..would that be included? what is included in being the aggressor? is it just making the call, arranging the date and then the man goes back to being the "alpha"? is it still a date if you’re paying, in the eyes of a woman? that definition might need to be re-jigged as well.
what do you think? are women taking advantage of "equality" when it comes to dating? should they?
