it’s not like they were your ex-boyfriends…
is there an unwritten rule about inviting friends you met through friends over for dinner? IF you invite friends you met through friends for dinner and don’t invite the friends that introduced you in the first place … do the "catalyst couple" have a right to be angry?
i think the answer is i’m not sure.
one girlfriend holds a six year grudge because two people she introduced at one of her theme parties went on to become v. good buddies. "and they met because of me!" she cries whenever she hears that the two of them went on a holiday together or to the theatre.
obviously i ask for a reason. magnificent and i met a great couple through another friend of mine. we basically spent the entire party talking together. later on in the day, charles said what i had been thinking, "i would really like to see them again, we should have them for dinner."
the unsaid was hanging there. swaying like that giant spider we passed along bowen road yesterday.
"just the four of us?" i said, hopefully.
"yes".
"but how, charles? their last name is quite common."
"i remember where he works. i know people in that company, and i bet all you have to do is write his name with a dot between first and last name, then at then the company and i bet that’s his email."
"ooooh i lurrrve it when you are clever," (sound of smooch or two)
i suspect this friend would be upset if she knew we were planning on spending an evening with these people. i have no plans on telling her, because it falls under the category of NOYB.
but does she have a right to be upset? sometimes when i am flying across the ocean i miss big news stories. it is possible i missed ETIQUETTE’s millenium proclamation that you can’t invite friends you met through others unless the catalysts are invited as well.
why do i care.
