TERTIA wrote a very good blog the other day. no surprise there.
the topic of this brilliant post was internet friendships. how sharing information regarding cervical length, mucous, infertility, etc has forged some powerful bonds amongst women who might not make intimate friends easily. i know i am in that category.
i have some amazing internet friends. the hen house is filled with women that grouped together. we had two things in common, warped senses of humour and the desire to spend $10,000 getting pregnant. (we are nothing if not philanthropic). some achieved their goals sooner than the others, some changed their dreams and found joy. but we remain hens.
i think i personally find internet friendships so rewarding because these cyber friends are a select, separate area of my life. a secret spice that the other components of my day are not privy to.
as well, my cyber friends only know my perspective. when i say someone has ticked me off, they loyally and wonderfully assume it was the other person’s fault. (which of course, is the case). who doesn’t love someone who knows lots of the issues and details in your life, will offer pithy comments and sage advise on the topics, YET isn’t physically involved in any of them? its like having a second jury at a trial, one that only looks at your attourney’s evidence.
cyber pals, thank you. for your tolerance, bluntness, patience, passion, humour, love and dreams.
xo
we share one huge issue…infertility. even those of us who have children…we are still infertile, having children does not change or erase your IF challenges.
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I have a friend crush on you.
me too, she’s soooooo pretty.
Tess, I have wondered how I would explain my “cyber” friends. We are going through IVF without shareing it with family and friends. The support, information and outlet that my “cyber” friends have given me and been willing to accept has been invaluable. I know that if you had put my “cyber” buddies and me in a room with a thousand others we probably wouldn’t have formed the group we have, yet I can’t imagine not having these women in my life. Thanks for reminding me how lucky I am Tess. As you share the insights to your life you help me to gain some into my own.
IF is like our own “red badge of courage” don’t you think? When you *see* it, you know it, and you have a bond that is almost immediate. That commonality lends itself to a fierce loyalty too.
Isn’t it nice to have one place in the world where explanations aren’t necessary? Where you are understood, and supported even if opinions and the choices that we make aren’t the same.
Our cyber friends are the ones who are there to say “well, of course you did xxxx, you just had xxxx happen.” Even if xxxx is something that you would never contemplate.
Makes me remember the song from Cheers:
“Where Everbody Knows Your Name”
Making your way in the world today takes everything you’ve got.
Taking a break from all your worries, sure would help a lot.
Wouldn’t you like to get away?
Sometimes you want to go, where everybody knows your name,
and they’re always glad you came.
You wanna be where you can see, our troubles are all the same
You wanna be where everybody knows your name.
You wanna go where people know, people are all the same,
You wanna go where everybody knows your name.
You want to go where people know, people are all the same;
You want to go where everybody knows your name.
Tertia:
http://tertia.typepad.com/so_close/
I think that typepad may just convert URLs to links automatically for you, though. So you can most likely just paste in her URL: http://tertia.typepad.com/so_close/ and it will (most likely) turn into a link.
otherwise, just go to: http://www.htmlhelp.com/faq/html/links.html#link-howto and take a look at the “How to create a link” section. Just the vanilla link part. 🙂
(Sticking with the geeky stuff, since I don’t know you, and since I’m not part of the band-of-the-sisters that you mention, just someone in awe of your strength. 🙂 )
Tess! Must tell you something V V funny. Well not that its funny, but it is. My BIL, who reads my blog, says to me last night “jeez, your friend Tess is HOT”. Tee hee. So you have an admirer this side of the equator.
Recently found your blog and had to comment.. You are an AMAZING WOMAN! I am a mom to 3 great kids, son aged 11 and daughters aged 7. I think back to those early days with the twins and I am SURE had I had a blog at that time it would not be as upbeat and positive as yours.
Stay strong and remember things WILL get easier! In the meantime, keep enjoying those beautiful babes, all 4 of them and take time for yourself whenever possible. (Stop laughing! MAKE the time for YOU.)